If you’re going through a separation or dealing with ongoing co-parenting conflict, someone has probably mentioned mediation. But what does it actually mean, and what happens in a session?
Family mediation is a voluntary, confidential process where a trained, neutral third party (that’s me!) helps two people work through disagreements and reach their own agreements. It is most commonly used by separating or divorcing parents to sort out parenting schedules, decision-making, and communication, but it can also support families dealing with ongoing conflict long after a separation is finalized.
The mediator does not take sides, make decisions, or give legal advice. The goal is to create a space where both parties can be heard and where workable solutions can be built together, with the needs of the children at the centre.
A typical mediation process looks something like this: an initial consultation to assess fit and readiness, individual intake meetings with each party, and then joint sessions where the actual work happens. Some families need two or three sessions. Others need more. It depends on the complexity of the issues and the willingness of both people to engage in the process.
Mediation is generally faster, less expensive, and far less adversarial than going to court. It also tends to produce agreements that both parties actually follow, because they built them together.
Mediation is not right for every situation. Cases involving family violence, significant power imbalances, or active safety concerns are not appropriate for mediation. A good mediator will assess this from the start.
If you are curious whether mediation might be a fit for your family, I offer a free consultation to talk it through.
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Jenn Bruer is a member of the Ontario Association for Family Mediation (OAFM) and is currently working toward her Accredited Family Mediator (AccFm) designation — bringing both academic training and real-world family experience to every session. She offers a free initial consultation to help you understand whether mediation is the right fit for your situation.