Jenn Bruer

Managing Workplace Resentment: Who Am I Mad At?

Managing Workplace Resentment: A Strategy for Finding Clarity and Empathy

It’s not uncommon to feel overwhelmed and, at times, resentful. But what if there was a strategy to help you unpack and manage those negative emotions, particularly when directed towards your boss or a higher-up in your organization?


Introducing the “Who Am I Mad At” strategy, a powerful tool for recognizing and reframing your feelings. This strategy invites you to take a moment when you’re feeling angry or resentful and ask yourself, “Who am I mad at?” The insight you gain can be eye-opening. Often, you’ll realize that your anger isn’t necessarily directed at a specific person but is a response to the stresses and demands of your work environment.


Furthermore, the strategy encourages you to refuse to be angry at your boss. Instead, it reminds you to see your boss as a human being, complete with flaws, vulnerabilities, and moments of being overwhelmed, just like everyone else. By acknowledging that your boss is your equal in the realm of shared human experiences, you can still respect the organizational hierarchy while cultivating a sense of empathy and understanding. Your boss is your EQUAL!


This approach is not only about managing emotions but also about fostering healthier workplace relationships. It aligns with principles of mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and stress management. By practicing the “Who Am I Mad At” strategy, you can find clarity, reduce resentment, and create a more positive and harmonious work environment. Give it a try and experience the transformative power of this valuable tool in your professional life.

Published by Jenn Bruer

Jenn Bruer is an esteemed youth counsellor and retired foster parent with an exceptional eighteen-year record of service. Author of the influential book "Helping Effortlessly: A Book of Inspiration and Healing", Jenn's personal journey through burnout recovery since 2011 has ignited her passion for holistic well-being. As a revered Mindfulness and Burnout workshop provider, she empowers individuals with transformative tools. Jenn's role as board member with Mindfulness Everyday, a prominent Canadian charity, showcases her dedication to accessible well-being education. Her remarkable trajectory exemplifies a commitment to healing and positive change.

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